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No matter how much we prepare in advance, the chances are excellent that plans will change along the way. Some people are adept at going with the flow when this happens, but a sudden schedule change can be debilitating for others.
There’s no magic solution that makes plans bullet-proof or changes easier to handle, but there are some things you can do to help your brain cope with the stress of change.
And most of the following tips can be implemented when plans fall through or even afterward, so it’s not all about planning for changing plans!
The whole world is familiar with Zoom now, but it’s not the only video chat option. In fact, if you’re looking for a video chat app to stay in touch with family and friends (rather than coworkers), there may be other options that work better for you. Here are some of the best video call apps to try. Best of all, every single one is free!
We all know what it likely means if we smell smoke at home, and most people know that the scent of rotten eggs can mean a dangerous gas leak. But several other unpleasant odors can be clues that something is amiss in your house.
Blended families are widespread, and while being a stepparent can be a rewarding experience, it can also be an enormous challenge. While some of the pieces involved in creating a functional family unit are beyond your control, you can do lots of things to make the integration process smoother and easier for everyone.
1. Take it slowly. All kids need time to adjust to change, and they may not even be conscious of their reactions. Give children time to get used to you and the new family dynamic. And, if the children have another involved parent from the previous relationship, don’t overstep and force your views and role as the new parent in a way that threatens the other parents’ role.
2. Create house rules with your partner. When you work together, rules will come from you and your spouse’s united front.
3. Be consistent. Children are less likely to see you as a threat if they know they can trust you. Being consistent in your behavior (toward them and otherwise) is a great way to build trust.
4. Meet kids where they are. How old children are when you become their stepparent can dramatically impact how easy or challenging the family integration will be. It’s critical first to understand each child's needs based on their individual development and then go from there. Teens are entirely different than toddlers.
5. Find common ground. Get to know the child and, if possible, pick something you both like to do (like cooking, sports, or art) as one way to insert yourself into their life as a friend gently.
6. Boundaries! Set boundaries early and hold to them. Kids will test their limits but stay consistent. For example, if your home office is off-limits, let kids know and stick to it.
This is by no means an exhaustive list of tips, and it’s an excellent idea to seek the help of a therapist who specializes in blended families. Whether you go solo to therapy or as a couple, you’ll likely gain valuable insights, and your partner won’t be the only receptacle for your frustrations.